Ask: Does acceptance lead to a desired outcome?
We’ve all heard the stories: Someone struggles to accept a situation and when they do, the situation resolves or falls away, Here are some examples: Jane has always wanted a life partner, but it has not happened. She’s 37 now and has come to accept being single. She’s at peace with this. This is when she meets the man she will marry and spend the rest of her life with. Gretchen was diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder. She’s angry. She falls into depression and for a long while she can’t seem to get past it. A therapist points out that she is grieving and suggests she allow the grieving process. Then one day Gretchen suddenly accepts that she will be managing this illness all her life. A month later, during a check-up at her specialist’s office, she sees a new doctor who notices something in her chart and orders more tests. It turns out Gretchen was misdiagnosed and does not have an autoimmune disease. She is given the appropriat...