4HIP: The Results of True Forgiving
From the book 4 Habits for Inner Peace, Part IV.7.c:
The Results of True Forgiving
The Results of True Forgiving
True forgiving results in you releasing yourself from your identification with a personal self. You cannot force this. First you must develop your awareness of the Truth as Truth. Then forgiving will come naturally.
When you are aware of Truth you are in a forgiving state of mind. This results in you:
Letting the personal self’s feelings and desires be as you rest in peace within.
Letting the personal self’s moods be as you rest in peace within.
Letting the personal self go about its business in the world as you rest in peace within.
Letting other personal selves be as you rest in peace within.
Letting the world and its ways and laws be as you rest in peace within.
Apologizing and making amends with ease because you are not attached to the personal self and its self-image.
Accepting apologies and amends with ease because you are not attached to the personal self and its self-image.
Allowing change to occur with an open mind.
Directing the personal self to take action without an attachment to outcome.
Trusting that all is unfolding perfectly in the personal self’s story as an effect of your awareness of Truth.
When you are in a forgiving state of mind you do not feel a need to change the personal self in your awareness to make it “right” or “good”. You do not feel a need to change others or the world so that you can be at peace. You are honest with yourself about all of the thoughts and feelings passing through your mind. You do not embrace or fight against not-Truth and all of its manifestations. You let them all go.
For example, say at work someone has taken credit for work that you did. This work was important to your position. So this is not only a matter of you not getting credit for a specific project but it makes it look like you are not fulfilling the responsibilities of your position. This threatens your continuing in this particular job. The personal thought system always responds immediately and emotionally. It will attack, certainly the person who took credit for your work and perhaps others and maybe even you. It will rile against its mistreatment. It will see itself as a victim.
When you choose to be forgiving you allow the personal thought system to process out its thoughts and feelings without judgment. You observe it, understanding that all personal selves are inherently guilty, fearful, insecure, and defensive. You let the personal thought system have its say then you let it go as you turn to the Truth within.
When you are aware of the Truth you are not attached to outcomes for the personal self because it is not you. You are at peace and emotionally neutral. In the above scenario when it comes time to go to your superiors with evidence of work done you are able to deal in facts instead of emotions. You lay your side of the story on the table and allow the outcome of your efforts to unfold. You know that whatever the outcome it is the perfect unfolding in form of your awareness of Truth. If there is more action to take, a point to press home, or a fact to highlight, you will know what to do. You will act in confidence, not because you believe that you are “right” or “good”, but because you know that the Truth in you is unchanged by anything that does or does not happen in the world.
When you are in a forgiving state of mind you do not take what happens in the world personally. You accept the world as it is in the recognition that it is all just passing thoughts. Only the Truth is True and only the Truth is constant. It is in this awareness that you find release and peace.
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