Sorting Out the Self, the Ego, and You
“I know it is ego, but…” is a phrase that is often said or written to me by clients and readers. But often what is called “ego” (personal thought system) is actually not the ego. Often it is just the personality of the self expressing itself.
Why is this important? Because in order to let go of the ego you have to see its boundaries. Otherwise you attempt to release what does not need to be released. And this can feel discordant, giving the ego an opportunity to tell you that you are being asked to sacrifice.
To recognize the ego’s boundaries you have to understand the self’s boundaries, too. The self, as I use the term, is a body and personality. It is part of the universe of form. It is the result of cause and effect at the level of form. Your particular self is the effect of what has gone before in the story of time. It has an authentic expression as part of the unfolding story of time. And it is neutral in that it is neither good nor bad. It simply is what has resulted from what has gone before.
The ego is the thought system, or way of thinking, in your mind that represents not-Truth. It is a thought system of lack, guilt, and fear. It teaches you that the self is you. It tells you to define yourself by the self and to fulfill yourself through the self’s life in the world. It teaches you that the self’s vulnerability is yours and that you need to defend the self to keep you safe. The ego uses ideas of lack, guilt, and fear to maintain your belief in it and in yourself as a self.
Who are you in this? You are a mind that is split between Truth and not-Truth. You identify with the self and the ego until you learn that you are not the self and the ego and you learn of Truth.
As an example of an authentic expression of a self, let’s say that your self desires a life-partner. In your identification with a self this feels like your desire. The desire itself is not an obstacle to you being aware of Truth. The Awareness of Truth (Holy Spirit) in your mind uses all situations as classrooms in which you learn of Truth. But if the ego in your mind tells you that you lack and that your sense of lack can only be filled if you have a life-partner then your desire for a life-partner can block you from being aware that you will only find wholeness in Truth. You can neutralize the ego, however, by deciding to use your seeking for a relationship, or your being in a relationship, as a way to learn of the Awareness of Truth. Eventually, as your awareness of Truth grows, your desire for a relationship to make you whole will be “cleansed” of the belief that it can save you. The desire for the relationship will remain a part of the self’s authentic expression, but you, as a mind, will know that you do not need to fulfill it to be fulfilled yourself.
The self’s authentic expression, motivations, desires, etc. are part of the story of Undoing in time and form. They continue as your awareness of Truth grows. You just stop defining yourself by them. You stop seeking through them for fulfillment. You observe them without judgment. The ego also continues with its stories of lack and guilt and fear, but you no longer believe them. You just observe them and their source and know that they are not real.
If you are giving things up or have a sense of sacrifice on the path you are looking at something in the wrong way. Sorting this out is what I help my clients with. You can email me at Liz@acimmentor.com to set up an appointment. Learn more at www.acimmentor.com.
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